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Simplicity in Receiving a Gift from Friends

May 032010

To Receive a Gift or present is a wonderful experience. It is often a confirmation of Friendship and love from a person close to us. It should be a Simple Action of Friendship.

The problem is that we have never really learned how to receive gifts from others. Often our acceptance of the gift presented causes guilt and other negative emotions to rise. People love to give gifts.

We have been taught and conditioned throughout life that Giving is Receiving and that presenting another person with a gift will bring joy and happiness to that person. During the action of Giving we experience many emotions that give us pleasure too but the receiver is often plagued by confusing feelings of guilt or unworthiness. The recipient grapples for the correct words to offer back thanks enough for the gift and to ensure the giver that we our very happy with the present.

Throughout childhood many of us have been brought up and conditioned to understand that to give is better than to receive,therefore we have never understood how to receive a gift. It’s simple; receive the gift,take it and enjoy it. Never pander to the conditioning of Guilt emotion that wants to rise up and ruin the moment with feelings of inadequacy. All we can do is say thank you from the heart and that’s that!

Language is very limited when we attempt to show our true feelings. The more we attempt to show gratitude,the more confused our words become. The giver has something to learn too, namely how to give. When we say thank you and then our guilt complex prompts us to express it in a better way, we tend to grasp at superlatives,” thank you”, “thank you very much” ” thanks a million” etc. Words fail us. We should take the gift in the spirit of simplicity and one thank you is plenty.

We make use of the gift and show the giver how useful it is to us and therefore was a wonderful gift. That their idea was a welcome contribution into our lives is thank you in action. Practicing simplicity in gratitude helped us to focus on the smaller yet often destructive feelings and thoughts that plague our daily lives. When we become aware of their existence we can eliminate them immediately by refusing to acknowledge their need for expression.

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First Date Advice for the Nervous Wreck

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Apr 272010

A First Date is an important experience that can often be nerve wracking. Normally those nerves start the night before on the day. If you haven’t been dating for a while and feel nervous about going on a date then these tips and advice should help you settle your nerves.
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Firstly, don’t forget that a First Date should be an enjoyable and exciting experience. Therefore a little preparedness can help to calm nerves and make everything go smoothly.

being nervous about a date is normal and it is a sign that it is important to you, that means that wen you meet your date for the first time and you notice that they are also nervous, it’s a good sign that the experience of meeting you is important to them too.

That’s a sign that they are trying too and want to make a good impression on you.

Fun Date Locations

First Dates should be just that, First dates and fun. It’s about meeting and getting an impression of who you are and who they are. It isn’t about trying to develop a relationship immediately or finding out everything about the person immediately. A first date is an introduction and a location like a walk in the park or a visit to a museum or similar is ideal. Notice that a neutral place is the best location. A place where no friends could possibly pop up and disturb you both with questions and “can I join you” etc. A café during the daytime is a good location too, so long as it is coffee or similar. No alcohol is important. Booze won’t loosen you up and make things easier.

First Date Questions

Asking questions is key to getting honest information from your date. Just don’t ask too personal questions this will put them on their guard and make them back off. just ask simple honest questions about everyday subjects that are general and can be answered generally. Hobbies, jobs,vacation are generally safe and don’t require too much explanation.

Stay clear of any questions that elicit emotional responses. You don’t want to know about the unhappy times in their life or if they are argumentative. This is all too far up the road for a first date. Stick to questions about the location and the things that you can both see, like a statue or painting in the museum. This is real conversation and during it you both show your intelligence and express opinions about the world around you. That’s plenty on the first meeting. Don’t forget the objective is to have a pleasant couple of hours getting to know each other and then going home alone with a good impression. Maybe they will call in the Morning or even an hour later.

Stay Focused on Them

Keep focused on the other person. Your questions have the purpose of eliciting information about them. Their opinions and thoughts on any topic will give you a great impression about who they are and what they find important in life. So, listen a lot and while they speak encourage them to continue speaking by using ” tag questions”, in other words a statement that ends with a small question on the end to elicit response. ” I like that painting,don’t you?”.

Listening helps you to stay focused on them and it is the only way that you can possibly find out if they are somebody you want to meet again. You may discover that they are a royal pain in the neck, always moaning or disagreeing about things. Some people have a terrible habit of responding in the negative to everything that is said. Somewhere they learned that it makes them sound intelligent but their negative response is never backed up by intelligent opinions or justification.

What to Wear

best advice is wear the clothes you would normally wear to go out in the evenings. If you don’t wear suits then don’t go out a buy one because you will feel very uncomfortable on your first date with a stranger and it just won’t help the situation.

Just look smart and clean. Shaving for men is a good idea but if you have that fashionable three day growth then it’ll be seen as that and acceptable to the other person. Common sense prevails with what to wear and so cleanliness and basic, good personal presentation visually is very important.

Saying Goodbye

When it is time to leave just think about saying goodbye and that’s all. If the date went well and your heart is thumping love for this person, try and control theurge to tell them,suddenly, everything that you feel about meeting them.

You don’t know what is going through their mind. They may be weighing you up and be thinking favourably about you. Maybe they plan to contact you again soon, but you don’t know that and so don’t blow it by getting emotional and telling them that you can’t leave them now and you want to have their baby and that you are worried that you’ll never meet again. Just be cool and tell them that you had great time. That you’d love to see them again sometime. Then wait for the response which should be something positive, then making sure you have exchanged some way of contacting each other, leave with smile and a wave – and hope for the best.

remember, it should be fun,lighthearted and not forced. You can never tell what a person is really thinking so go on a first date with the attitude of lightness and intentions of having a pleasant time. Not trying to find your life partner,that comes a bit later on.

Totally Single Today Your Dating Love Tomorrow

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Apr 242010

Most healthy minded Single people desire to change their single status for a totally harmonious , emotionally rewarding, Being-Single-blasting, Loving Relationship that will grow into long-term experience of Love.
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The Problem

Moving from being a single to becoming an attached person enjoying a relationship or regular dates can be a weird and confusing experience at the best of times. If you wake up in the Morning and over breakfast you suddenly decide that Today is the Day that you will change things and work on getting a date, where will you look? Dating sites have become the number one way of finding potential partners. Many people stay away from trying to get a date in a pub because of the flow of alcohol and the problem of potential partners looking a hell of a lot better than they really are when you’ve drank a couple of beers. Think about the Morning after wen phone numbers and emails have been exchanged. Getting out of unwanted attention over the next few days is often troublesome and tiring. Using one of the free dating sites online is agreed as better solution. Trying something like Easyflirt.com which is site that offers a webcam chat where you can talk and flirt online,visually and without having to commit to anything before deciding to meet makes the experience fun.

How to Find a Date

Today,dating has become a lot easier than it used to be. The Internet offers us a lot of push button options in life and one of them is dating. All types of dating and relationship initiation possibilities are on offer. You can become a serious seeker, looking for that special Mr or Miss Right or you can set up a date for fun only and have no morning after hassles with the person chasing you for a second date – just dinner and some wild fun afterwards is quite possible. There are singles sites that offer the free membership to women so that they can find a Sugar Daddy who will pamper them and enjoy some time together. The SugarDaddymay want a long term relationship or not but that’s up to both of you to set the parameters.

The same applies with other Singles Sites that offer many different options about what type of relationship you are seeking. A one night stand, no SugarDaddy but the sort of person who turns you on and is easier to find this way than in the pub or just by chance. You’ll probably end up having a great time with someone who you actually like a lot – saying goodbye might be regretful, but all in the course of this type of date! Easyflirt.com:first dating website with webcam chat

Finding a Special Friend

FriendFinder. is one of the most well known and trusted ways of meeting potential partners. No hassle with plenty of options about what or who are looking to meet. If you want to find a special person who may turn out to be the love you have been looking for then FriendFinder is an excellent Singles Site to use. To sign up is easy because you can do that for free and start browsing who is looking for your type of relationship in your area. friendFinder caters for everybody who is seeking somebody for a relationship, love or just a date for fun.

Experiences

Most people report good to very good experiences on the big singles sites. Some have been let down and didn’t find what they wanted. Studies show that Internet singles sites have become an extremely popular way of finding a partner these days. Not surprising since the business of Matchmaker has been around for many centuries and it makes things easier for busy singles who don’t spend their nights out on the town all the time.

people who meet through a dating site have to make what they can of it. That means that the more honest they are with the potential partner and themselves about expectations, the higher the chances of success with meeting exactly the type of person you are looking for. Most people who fail to meet the right person have to admit that they weren’t too serious in the first place or that they were dishonest about their own profile and image.

We live in an age where white lies are understood to be okay when job seeking, so why not when partner hunting? Being honest is key to getting to meet the person you want – they will thank you for it and recognize that quality. That’ll make ‘em curious to know more and meet you again. After your first online date who knows what could be waiting in your email box the next day!